Authentic Intimacy

How to Teach Children Healthy Intimacy and Boundaries

We can’t always be with our kids, so how can we be proactive in keeping them safe?

#532 How the Church Can Help Stop Domestic Abuse

Chris Moles and Stacey Womack join Juli to talk about what churches need to know when it comes to helping abuse victims.

What Can Church Leaders Do to Combat Porn Use in the Church?

Four ways churches can be strengthened and equipped to develop a healthy approach to combating pornography use.

#536 How To Help Your Kids Avoid Identity Traps

Jonathan Holmes shares with Juli how we can avoid identity traps and teach our kids to do the same.

How To Get Past Shame From Sexual Sins

Why do we experience shame? Are there ever times when it can be a helpful feeling? Juli shares what to do when we experience shame, and how God’s word brings us hope for the future.

#531 The Basics of Talking to Kids About Sex

Dr. Julia Sadusky provides parenting tips for Christian families seeking to engage in healthy conversations with their kids about sex.

#530 Sexuality and Smartphones: How to Help Teens Thrive

Pastor James Talbert from Citizens Church Akron joins Juli to share his knowledge on teens, sex, and social media.

Q&A: How Do I Learn to Trust My Spouse Again After an Affair?

How do you learn to trust again when your spouse has had an affair?

#541 Teaching Sexuality: Pitfalls, Purity Culture, and the Best Path Forward

Noah Filipiak joins Juli to share where he sees a need to provide the youth of today with a better framework for biblical sexuality.

How To Tell if Your Spouse Is Truly Repentant

After a betrayal, how can you know if your spouse is truly repentant? Juli unpacks a recent conversation with Jeremy Smith, LPC, as he shares what to look for.

#509 Workaholism And Infidelity Almost Led To Divorce, But A Miracle Saved Their Marriage

Join Juli, David and Terri, as the couple talk about how God’s intervention saved and restored their marriage.

#505 What Does it Look Like to Struggle with Sexual Sin and Still Love Jesus?

Lina Abujamra discusses external and internal challenges and the truths we all wrestle with as we pursue God’s design for sexuality.

Q&A: How Do I Love My LGBTQ Friends Without Compromising Biblical Truth?

Is it possible to love your LGBTQ friends without compromising biblical truth?

#156: How To Keep Your Heart Open When You Don’t Feel Emotionally Safe

"Open" is the default setting of our hearts. When our hearts are closed, we lack perspective. We're more likely to make poor...

#430: Marriage Can Be Hard, Here’s Why the Work Is Worth It

What do you do when you want to give up on your marriage? Greg & Erin Smalley share their story—and remind us that we can ask...

#263: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 2

In part two of this conversation, you'll hear about the other two legs of the "sexual desire triangle" and go from getting your body...

#262: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 1

Unlike most men (who always seem to be in the mood, always climax, and never experience pain), sexual pleasure can be a mystery to...

#423: How to “Rethink” Issues in Our Church Culture Around Sexuality & Abuse

We need to be asking some hard questions. In the wake of the SBC investigation, along with the growing tsunami of fallen pastors,...

#540 A Pastoral Perspective on Supporting Those with Gender Dysphoria

Pastor Sam Ferguson joins Juli to get practical about loving the hearts of hurting people while staying rooted in God’s Word.

#539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It

Curt Thompson, MD, author of “The Soul of Shame”, joins Juli to explain what shame is, why we experience it, and what to do with it.

#535 What Men Weren’t Taught About Sex

Sam Jolman, author of “The Sex Talk You Never Got”, joins Juli to talk about what men didn’t learn about sex growing up.

Q&A: What’s OK for a married couple in the bedroom?

Can married couples do whatever they want sexually?

#534 Four Surprising Things Killing Your Wife’s Sex Drive

Dr. Jennifer Degler discusses some of the lesser-known reasons why a woman might not feel excited about sexual intimacy with her husband.

#533 Why It Feels Impossible To Beat Your Sin

Are we supposed to battle our sin or surrender it to the one who has already defeated it?

Q&A: Will I ever be able to heal from sexual trauma?

Is the fight to heal from sexual trauma as hopeless as it often feels?

#528 The 3 Superpowers Your Sex Life is Missing

Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about three ways couples can boost their sexual and emotional intimacy.

#527 Why Friendship, not Romance, is the Greatest Love of All

Rebecca McLaughlin explains how we’ve lost our vision for loving relationships outside the context of marriage or the nuclear family.

#519 Why we Need to be Better at Caring for Divorced People in the Church

Laura Petherbridge shares her experience as a divorcee and explains how to walk in love and empathy to those who have experienced divorce.

#510 Influencer Anh Lin on Overcoming Trauma and Living a Beautiful Life

Accidental influencer and author of “Forever Home”, Anh Lin, shares her story of journeying through trauma and brokenness to healing.

#508 What Does Healthy Masculinity Actually Look Like?

What can we learn from the lives of the heroes of the faith?

#507 What You Need To Know About The Gender Conversation

John and Sarah Stonestreet explore some of the underlying beliefs surrounding sexuality in our culture.

#506 How To Make Sense Of Grief And God’s Goodness

Pastors Ed and Lisa Young of Fellowship Church join Juli for a moving, faith-filled conversation about the loss of their daughter, Lee-Beth.

#490 How Do You Go From Being Stuck in Bondage to True Freedom?

What does it really take to go from death to life? How are we truly transformed? Jonathan Daugherty joins Juli to discuss his new book.

#488 What Does the Bible Really Say About Same-Sex Marriage?

What is the Biblical essence of marriage and who is it for? Preston Sprinkle discusses his new book “Does the Bible Support Same-Sex Marriage?”

Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal?

How do you know if your spouse is repentant after a betrayal?

Q&A: Past Sexual Trauma Inhibits My Ability to Enjoy Sex. Is There Hope That I Can Ever Heal?

When trauma is in your past, is sexual enjoyment possible?

Q&A: How Can I Overcome the Shame I Experienced as a Result of Purity Culture?

How do you overcome any shame you’ve experienced from purity culture?

Q&A: Is Sex Necessary For Intimacy?

Is sex necessary for intimacy?

Q&A: What If I’m Not Attracted to My Spouse Anymore?

What do you do if you’re no longer attracted to your spouse?

Q&A: Sex Has Never Been Pleasurable in Our Marriage. Should I Just Fake It?

If you don’t enjoy sex, should you just fake it?

Q&A: What Is the Difference Between Sexual Integrity and Purity?

What is the difference between sexual integrity and purity?

Q&A: Is Sending Nudes and Homemade Porn Okay if We’re Married?

What’s okay to do sexually in marriage?

#438: How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus

Glenn Packiam joins Juli to talk about how the biblical metaphor of ordinary table bread reveals God’s...

#437: How To Help Your Kids Learn Resilience and Build Character

Living with sexual integrity often means saying no to what you want in the moment. If you expect life to always be...

#155: How To Fight With Your Spouse

Are you ready to fight your way to a better marriage? Conflict presents an incredible opportunity for couples. When done well, it...

Webinar Series: Sex & the Single Christian, Pt 2

How To Ditch the Counterfeits & Find True Intimacy Part 2 in this webinar series Therapist and life coach Dawn Jones is back to tell us the truth about counterfeit intimacy and how to recover from trauma like porn, abuse, and even your "friends" on social media....

#429: How To Find Love When Dating Has Changed with Jonathan Pokluda

Is the way you approach dating actually sabotaging your chances for a healthy marriage? From “just coffee” to...

#426: How To Better Understand the Complexity Beneath Gender Dysphoria

What’s the difference between sexual identity and gender identity? Should parents use preferred pronouns? Or allow kids to dress in...

#421: “God, Sex, and Your Marriage”-Juli Answers Your Questions

You're starting to see how sexual intimacy is a reflection of covenant love. But what does that actually look like in your sex...

#418: What Is Sexual Intimacy Supposed To Look Like in Marriage?

Imagine that you and your spouse are building a jigsaw puzzle, but you don’t know what the picture on the front of the box looks...

#416: How God Uses Heartache to Prepare You for Your True Calling

Dr. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel join Juli to share about Redeeming Heartache—a new book and tool (think Enneagram or DISC) to...

#413: The Perfect Parent Is the One Who Knows They Need Jesus

Dave and Ann Wilson get real about the messiness of parenting. They'll share how they learned to bring others around them, to learn...

#411: The Unlikely Means God Uses To Bring Beauty From Ashes

What are the unlikely (often unwelcome) means that God uses to heal us? Join us to find out and discover the power of being fully...

#403: How Do I Reconcile God’s Goodness with Sexual Pain & Injustice?

How can we reconcile the pain of sexual abuse with faith in a loving God?

#402: If God Made My Body “Good,” Why Does It Cause So Much Pain?

Juli is joined by author and apologist Sam Allberry to share how we can reconcile the goodness of our bodies (which are created by...

#401: Why “Love Is Love” Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Means

Black Lives Matter. Love is love. Hate has no home here. A thread of truth—truth deeply rooted in Christianity—runs through these...

#400: If God Is Good, Why Doesn’t He Take Away My Sexual Addiction?

At the root of every struggle with ongoing, unwanted sexual sin is a lie about God—and it keeps you from the very things that bring...

#399: Why Questions About Sex Cause You to Question God

Juli and Hannah kick off the "Making Sense of God & Sex" series with a conversation about how questions around sex always lead...

#398: How Trauma-Informed Care Helps Your Brain, Body & Relationships

“Trauma-informed care” is more than just a pop psychology buzzword. Join Juli and her guest to learn about the experiences that we...

#393: Practical Wisdom for Dating & Friendship

Can we get practical about dating? Juli and author Eric Demeter put aside the Christian dating subculture and get super...

#65: Why Healing Takes Time, with Francine Rivers

Juli sits down with author Francine Rivers to hear how her own story of brokenness and healing after an abortion...

#387: Life, Intimacy and Loving Your Body After Breast Cancer & Reconstruction

Kim Harms was diagnosed with breast cancer shortly after her fortieth birthday. In this episode, Juli grabs...

#385: How To Wrestle With God Over Questions of Sex & Sexuality

Come deconstruct with us for 40 minutes or so. Yep, that's right. If we can’t ask hard questions about the...

#378: How One Church Learned To Embrace the Beauty of Broken

Imagine there is a sign on the door of your church that says, “Please leave your sexual brokenness on the steps...

#348: What You Need To Know About the “T” in LGBT, Pt 2

In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Preston Sprinkle as they dive into biblical questions around...

#347: What You Need To Know About the “T” in LGBT, Pt 1

What was once a rare psychological diagnosis has quickly become an accepted cultural movement. While it's critical...

#538 How I Rebuilt Faith In God After Church Abuse

Ryan George shares how he disentangled the manipulation and abuse of his past from who God really is.

How To Talk to Your Spouse About Sex

Why is it we’re more comfortable having sex than we are talking about it?

Has God Changed His Mind About Sex?

Cultural ideals around sex and sexuality have shifted over the last 100 years, but does this mean God’s design for sex has shifted as well?

How To Rebuild Intimacy After Infidelity

Should a couple who experienced infidelity give up on sex? Or is there a way to approach sex that feels safe and honest for both parties?

#529 Modern Dating: How To Do It Well

Kait and JJ Tomlin from Heart of Dating join Juli to help singles navigate the ups and downs of modern dating.

#526 How God Heals Us From Past Abuse and Trauma

Jennifer Michelle Greenberg shares her journey of healing and processing after decades long abuse at the hands of her father.

#525 Churches and Porn: What isn’t Working and How to Change it

Sam Black explains how the Church can become a safe and healing place for those struggling with pornography.

#524 Her Freedom Journey: A Powerful New Book Helping Women Overcome Porn And Sexual Shame

Introducing “Her Freedom Journey”, Juli and Joy’s brand new book!

#523 How Past Family Patterns Impact the Way You Love Today

“How We Love” authors, Kay and Milan Yerkovich, join Juli to explain how understanding attachment styles can improve relationships.

#522 The Paradox of Hope and Brokenness: Jesus, Depression and SSA

Brenna Blain explains how coming to the end of herself led her to a place desperate enough to long for God Himself, not just His healing.

#518 Single Sexuality and the Unique Challenges of Widowhood

Dr. Carol Tanksley delves into the complexities faced by widows and sheds light on the emotional and psychological hurdles they face.

Sexual Abuse: How the Church Should Respond

What is the Church’s responsibility in addressing sexual abuse and what steps should we take to prevent it?

#515 Is Attraction Sinful? Unpacking Attachment, Safety, Love and Desire

Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire.

I Was Sexually Abused. Now, God Is Restoring My Identity

How does sexual abuse impact the way we view ourselves? A sexual abuse survivor shares her journey towards healing.

Overcoming Addiction: The Crucial Element You Might Be Missing

What does it mean to be “in Christ,” and how does this lead to healing and freedom?

How can you Know if You’re Ready for Marriage?

Are you as ready as you think you are for marriage?

Q&A: Can Sexual Sin be Forgiven?

Are some sins less forgivable than others?

Q&A: How Do I Love My LGBTQ Friends Without Compromising Biblical Truth? (Part 2)

Is it possible to love your LGBTQ friends without compromising biblical truth?

Q&A: Is It OK to Call a Transgender Friend by Their Preferred Pronouns?

Is It OK to call a transgender friend by their preferred pronouns?

How The American Church Reinforces Isolation and Why That Needs to Change

What if one of the most important things about church is not what happens at meetings but what happens between them?

#489 Thinking About Divorce? You Might Want to Listen to This First

Is divorce the best option for you? Toni and Carey Nieuwhof discuss Toni’s book, “Before You Split.”

#257: How Trauma Affects Our Bodies & Souls

Whether you’ve experienced physical or emotional trauma, it always leaves a mark. Susie Larson joins Juli to discuss the path to healing when trauma runs deep.

#486 Teaching Sexual Discipleship: How to Walk in Truth and Love with LGBTQ+ Kids

Kelly Urbon discusses the work she is doing in counseling parents of those who identify as LGBTQ+, and explains why this work is so necessary.

Q&A: Is It My Responsibility to Meet My Spouse’s Sexual Needs?

Is it your responsibility to meet your spouse’s sexual needs?

#473 Repentance, Redemption, and Revolution: How to Accept the Invitation of Godly Sexuality

What does it actually look like to accept the invitation to reclaim God’s design for sexuality in your life? Is the path straight, wide, and flat, or narrow, bumpy, and full of twists and turns? In this episode of Java with Juli, Juli hosts guests Cole and Caitlin Zick of Moral Revolution as they discuss their polar-opposite experiences embracing their sexuality as God intended.

Q&A: We Have Sex Regularly, but My Husband Never Seems Satisfied. What Do I Do?

What do you do if your spouse never seems satisfied with the sex you’re having?

Q&A: Is There Any Hope for Me in My Struggle with Porn?

Is there hope for you in your struggle with porn?

Why We Don’t Experience Victory

I recently spoke with a young woman who despises herself because of her continual struggle with lust and pornography. She’s tried to obey God and run away from sin only to find herself falling into it once again. I’ve met other people who feel similar discouragement...

What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires?

“What do I do with my sexual desire?” I’ve heard this question from men and women of every age, from those who have never married and from those who find themselves “single again.” I have also heard this question from married people who, for one reason or another, do...

Q&A: How Can I Steward My Sexuality as a Single?

How do you steward your sexuality as a single person?

#448: When Did Sexual Identity Become a Thing? (and Why Are We Obsessed With It?)

Sexual identity has become a common phrase, a personal choice, a political cause and, for many, the way we introduce ourselves to others (used even by tweens and teens who’ve never had a sexual experience)—and it feels like it all happened overnight. Do you ever wonder how we got here?

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