Authentic Intimacy

#306: When You Can’t Wait Another Day

What do you do when you find yourself in a situation you don't like, didn't sign up for, and can't wait to be done with? (Social...

COVID-19 and Porn: A Quick Fix But No Solution

(Presione aquí para leer en español). Since COVID-19 the pornography industry has seen a massive increase in website traffic. On March 24th, one major site announced that their premium content would be free to all visitors resulting in a massive increase of 18.5%. The...

Don’t Waste the Pain

Practically every conversation I’ve had in the last week has contained a phrase like, “These are strange times.” Strange times, indeed. Never in our lives have we walked through so much uncertainty. Our health, careers, and security all seem to be dangling on a...

#304: Stop Caring What Others Think

Are you constantly preoccupied with what others think about you? With how you look, how much money you make, or how many Instagram...

Stop Trying So Hard!

Several years ago, I met with a spiritual mentor with whom I shared an ongoing battle with a particular sin. We had been meeting every month for over a year, yet I was still tempted by the same sin. I didn’t feel like I was making any spiritual progress! I asked her,...

#22: Intimacy, Sex & Aging

Intimacy with your spouse is important is all phases of life--even when you're celebrating your 50th wedding...

When Christians Disagree About Sex

When the Nashville statement was released, it brought conservative Christianity’s relationship with sexual issues front and center into the mainstream media. USA Today described the Nashville statement this way, “A coalition of conservative evangelical leaders laid...

Learning To Be a Promise-Breaker

Has anyone ever told you that it may be healthy to break your promises? No, I’m not talking about going back on your word or taking your wedding vows lightly. I’m referring to a different category of vows … the kind of promises that people rarely acknowledge. Our...

#293: Secrets to a Lasting Relationship

Dating has changed. A LOT. In the last decade, cohabitation, sex, and sexual experimentation have been touted as the best ways to...

A Hopeless New Year?

Turning my calendar to January 1 is usually refreshing for me. It represents a new year with a clean slate and excitement ahead. So why does ushering in 2020 feel so heavy and discouraging? There are many indications that our culture is quickly moving in a dangerous...

The World Has a Lot To Say About Sex

If you haven’t noticed, our views on sexuality have changed quite a bit over the past 20 years. Americans are far more accepting of behaviors they once considered to be sexually immoral. Cohabitation, having sex outside of marriage, no-fault divorce, viewing...

Webinar: The Season for a Savior

Perhaps the best way to remember Jesus this Christmas is to imagine where you would be without Him. In this month’s webinar, we’ll talk practically about managing the tensions of Christmas; from strife in your marriage to losing a loved one to facing...

#291: Will You Trade Your Comfort Food for The Comforter?

Are you a sugar addict? Do you run to the pantry each afternoon to get you through your day? Do you turn to Starbucks...

#290: True Friendship, or merely Friend-ish?

A sweet friendship refreshes the soul –and it’s better to have a friend nearby than a relative far away...

What’s the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?

(Presione aquí para leer en español). If someone asks you, “What are your thoughts on cohabitation?” or “Do you believe God is ok with gay marriage?” how would you respond? To answer those questions, you will (without even realizing it) tap into your underlying...

Why Promise Rings and Purity Talks Fall Short

True Love Waits. I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Promise rings. These are the touchstones of predominant teaching on sexual purity promoted by the Christian community throughout the past several decades. Yet, the word purity among today’s Christian adults can elicit feelings...

#287: Does God Want Me to Have Good Self-Esteem?

How do I convince myself and everyone else that I’m worthy of being loved? That may not be what the question...

#286: How to Make Time to Make Love

Making time to make love is always going to take effort. There will always be an excuse to put it off for another season. Grab your...

Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt. 2

For the past decade, my full-time job has been to address sexual issues from a Christian perspective. Knowing that, you can imagine the kind of emails I regularly receive in my inbox! What I’ve learned is that sexuality represents pain in a lot of lives and marriages....

#55: When Marriage Won’t Get Better

What do you do when your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, but your spouse won't work on it, no matter...

Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt. 1

Most of us have been told that sex in marriage is important. But why does it matter? For many of us, sex may just be “meh” or tend to cause more division in our relationships than unity. The reality is that sexual issues are always among the top reasons for marital...

Escaping the Web of Pride

My dear friend Christine and I were recently talking over a cup of coffee about the battle of pride—how difficult it is to detect and how impossible to conquer. She told me a story that perfectly symbolized the problem: Juli, every morning I go out to my garden and...

#281: Growing Closer Through Conflict

There’s no such thing as instant intimacy. Love at first sight? Perhaps. But intimacy is something else entirely. It takes years to...

#280: When Submission Becomes Controlling

Sarah got married believing that absolute submission to her husband would glorify God; making Him, her and her man happy. Only, she...

Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder

We spend a lot of time as Christ-followers talking about forgiving one another. After all, Jesus taught the importance of forgiveness, saying that our Heavenly Father will not forgive us if we fail to forgive each other. That’s pretty heavy! While forgiveness is a...

#278: Aging with Enthusiasm & Grace

Tomorrow isn't promised to any of us. How can we be grateful, joyful, and love others well whatever season we're in? Today...

Shame Doesn’t Have the Final Word

Most women bask in the comment “You look so young!” but not Jeni. Why? Because she is young … too young to be the mom of a six-year-old girl. When Jeni goes to her daughter’s kindergarten class, she feels out of place with every other mom, many of whom are more than a...

Joshua Harris, Sexuality, and “Deconstructing” Christianity

Recently, the evangelical world has been rocked by the news of Joshua Harris’s decision to leave his marriage and Christian beliefs. Joshua is the bestselling author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye and was a well-known spokesperson for the purity movement of the 1990s. A...

How to Have Tough Conversations

(Presione aquí para leer en español) If you listen to our podcast, Java with Juli, you know that I don’t like small talk. Ever since I was a little girl, I have been able to acutely sense unspoken tension in a room. I’m anxious when I have a conflict with a friend or...

#271: The Truth (and Lies) About Infertility

One in seven couples struggles with infertility --and it's easy to make some pretty hurtful assumptions about them...

#270: Winning the Battle in Your Mind

Sometimes the most difficult battles we face are the ones that rage within our own hearts and minds. In this episode, Juli gets...

#269: Loving Jesus in the Season You’re In

No matter what season of life you’re in, the object is the same: love Jesus and become more like Him. Are you single and wondering...

Where Do You Run When Marriage Gets Lonely?

It’s one thing to be lonely when you are single, wondering if and when God will ever bring the right guy. It’s another matter for your heart to ache with loneliness when the “right guy” is living in your home and sleeping in your bed. If this is your reality, please...

#266: Your Marriage, God’s Design

What do you want out of marriage? If you’re like most of us, you hope for love, companionship, passion and other good things that...

Beyond a Happy Marriage

Within the past month, I’ve been accused of two things that seem to be mutually exclusive. A few women have made comments like, “Why don’t you ever challenge the men? Why is it always the woman’s responsibility to build a healthy marriage?” And men have written me...

#265: The Hard (and Hopeful) Truth About Losing a Spouse

“God created our bodies to become one in marriage in a very physical and neurological way. When that is suddenly...

#264: You (Too) Can Help #MeToo

What can you do to make sure the voices of sexual abuse victims continue to be heard following the #MeToo movement? How...

#260: BONUS! Confused About Sexuality? We Understand

Why is there so much confusion in the Church about sex? If God's word is clear on this issue, why do so many great...

#11: When Work & Marriage Intersect

When you and your spouse have separate (but equally important) callings that pull you in different directions, who yields?...

#256: Who Is Jesus to You?

Every sexual question is a spiritual question. Every sexual opinion you hold comes from a foundation of who Jesus is to you. In the...

Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers

Have you ever wondered why God made you and your husband so different? For many years, I thought that might be my first question to God when I got to heaven. The differences between me and my husband, particularly in the bedroom, were driving us both crazy. Sexual...

#253: Making the Gospel Beautiful Through Relationships

How do we foster relationships that show the world that the Gospel is not just beautiful, it's also...

#252: Finding Your Voice

Sexual abuse. Fame. Infidelity and divorce. Five-time Grammy award winner Sandi Patty has walked through them all. How has she come...

#251: Praying with Honesty and Abandon

Do you pray about your sex life? About that friend you're hoping will become more than a friend? Some of us...

When Your Child Has Been Sexually Abused

The headlines are filled with horrific accounts of childhood sexual abuse. Behind every headline are children and their parents, families grasping for help and hope through devastating news. We have received many emails from parents who recently discovered that their...

#161: Beyond Pro-Life vs. Pro-Choice

Take the politics out of conversations about abortion. You don't have to choose between valuing the rights of a...

#249: Overcoming Differences With Your Spouse

Opposites attract... for a little while. Then those cute, quirky things that attracted you to your spouse early on...

#246: Lies You Believe About Sex

"I'm not loved if I'm not desired." "I don't deserve a great sex life." "God...

#245: The Link Between Your Bedroom & Your Bank Account

Have you ever hidden a receipt from your spouse? Join Juli and her guests to find out why holding grudges or...

#244: Your Love-Hate Relationship with Food

Do you want out of your love-hate relationship with food? This isn't a conversation about what you should or...

Your Husband Needs You Too

I vividly remember life as it was about 15 years ago. A newborn, a 4-year-old and a 6-year-old, all boys. Most mornings, I woke up to someone crying or pleading for breakfast. From the time my feet hit the ground until I went to bed, someone needed me. I was acutely...

#242: Worried About the Future? Find Hope Here

We naturally fear what we don't understand or can't control -- like the messages and confusion surrounding...

#238: Josh Harris is Rethinking “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”

What if you gave millions of people the wrong advice? Two decades ago Josh Harris turned the Christian dating world...

#235: How the Purity Movement Hurt Us

"I always thought that if I did everything the way God told us to, then I would be blessed, I would be happy, and I would have a...

#233: Understanding Your Man

From "All he thinks about is sex!" to "Why doesn't he ever initiate?" this Java with Juli...

#229: Sex, Teens, & Parenting

Your daughter is sexting her boyfriend. Your son sees porn on a friend's phone. Now that you've yelled, confiscated their devices...

#226: Culture, Technology & Your Child

If raising kids isn’t hard enough, throw smart phones, social media and video games into the mix and you have...

Sexual Pleasure Isn’t Shameful

God cares about your sex life. It may seem weird to see the words God and sex in the same sentence. Sometimes when I teach women on this topic, they have a visceral reaction to the concept of God knowing about their sex lives. Psalm 139 tells us that God is always...

Webinar: Fighting Masturbation and Fantasy

Every day we receive questions from men and women around masturbation and fantasy. Is masturbation a sin? How do I know when I've "crossed the line" into sinful sexual fantasy? How do we differentiate between healthy sexual desire and sinful lust? What if I'm single?...

#220: Rethinking Sexuality In Your Parenting

If you don’t teach your children about sex, someone else will. Listen in as Juli shares the resources you...

#219: Rethinking Sexuality in Your Marriage

Does God care about what goes on inside your bedroom? We think so. God has something to teach you about...

#218: Rethinking Sexuality in Your Life

Do I really need to save sex for marriage? What’s wrong with porn if I’m not hurting anyone...

#217: Finding Hope After Betrayal

The man who vowed to love, cherish and protect you is cheating, lying and hiding. Now what? In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery is...

#215: Miscarriage & Infertility

After years of buying baby gifts for friends, one in every eight women wonder if it will ever be her turn. Is she...

Parenting as a Team

When I look at the home my husband grew up in and compare it to how I was raised, it’s a wonder we ended up together. Our backgrounds are so completely opposite that no marriage counselor in her right mind would have suggested that we marry. Once we said, “I do,” Mike...

Webinar: Guilt & Motherhood: When You Think You’re Messing It Up

Practically every mother wrestles with guilt because there is no such thing as a perfect mom. We instinctively know that the choices we make will impact our children's lives. How can we parent our kids without being paralyzed by the guilt of our mistakes and fear of...

#205: My Husband’s Addiction Saved My Life

From the outside they had a perfect Christian family --a happy marriage, jobs in ministry and successful kids. ...

The Great Danger: He Can Have My Body, But…

Jerusha Clark wrote the following guest blog as a follow up to her and Juli's conversation on Java with Juli. Jerusha and her husband Jeramy have been sharing their journey of marriage and parenting for many years, encouraging others with what God is teaching them.You...

Webinar: Loving Your LGBT Neighbor

Ever feel like we're just fumbling through the LGBT conversation, always asking but never really finding Biblical answers to questions like: What does it look like to be friends with my lesbian neighbors? How should I love my gay child and his partner? What if I'm...

#202: Childhood Trauma and How It Impacts You

Powerful moments and memories from our childhood stick with us. They affect who we become and how we interact with others. If your...

#201: Healing From Abuse and Sexual Trafficking

Healing from abuse and sexual trafficking is difficult, but possible. In this Java with Juli, Juli talks with...

#105: Out of the Shadows

Church should be a safe place. But far too often church is an easy environment for pedophiles and abusers to ruin lives, and destroy...

#198: Sharing God’s Message for Sexuality

God redeems our sexuality and allows us to share our stories with a hurting world. In this...

#197: A Pornography Addiction in our Marriage

On this episode, Juli talks with Sanj and Kay Kalra about the way that pornography addiction negatively affected their marriage for...

#196: Public Me vs. Private Me

What things in your life do you try really hard to hide? If my friends knew that I’m struggling with big temptations If people ever...

How We Love Each Other

I grew up in a family of six kids, all very close in age. My position as “number five” out of six is probably a huge part of why I became a psychologist. My earliest pictures are often of me in a playpen observing family life. As teenagers, my sisters and I became...

#187: Grace for the Bad (and Not-So-Bad) Girl

“You can’t out sin the grace of God.” That’s a bold statement from our guest Liz Curtis Higgs, author of the...

#186: What Can Passion Pursuit Do for You?

Do you desire deeper intimacy with your spouse? Do you want to experience freedom in the bedroom like you’ve never...

How Do I Rebuild Trust After Betrayal?

There is no pain like discovering that your husband has been unfaithful. It’s as if your whole world has been shattered. You doubt your instincts because you have been fooled. You make vows to never trust again because old vows have been broken. Based on God’s Word,...

Masturbation: Is It Wrong?

Because my job is to talk to women about sex, there are few questions I haven't heard and haven't answered. However, there is one common question that I don't like to answer. Is it ok to masturbate? (Presione aquí para leer en español.) This question is a bit...

I’m Single & Have No Sexual Desire

“I don’t feel sexual desire toward my boyfriend/fiancé. Should I stay single?” Let me introduce you to three different women who have asked me this question for very different reasons: Chelsey has been dating Drew for two years. They have a deep affection for each...

#180: Broken Women, Prostitutes and Your Part

Do you have the courage to reach out to someone who is hurting? We often feel fearful or ill-equipped when God calls...

Healing After #metoo

As you watch a flood of #MeToo tags come through your social media feed, what is your reaction? Maybe you feel sick to your stomach, need some time to let the grief wash over you, or experience a rush of anger. Me too. How does something that is so hidden and...

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