Authentic Intimacy

#202: Childhood Trauma and How It Impacts You

Powerful moments and memories from our childhood stick with us. They affect who we become and how we interact with others. If your...

#201: Healing From Abuse and Sexual Trafficking

Healing from abuse and sexual trafficking is difficult, but possible. In this Java with Juli, Juli talks with...

#105: Out of the Shadows

Church should be a safe place. But far too often church is an easy environment for pedophiles and abusers to ruin lives, and destroy...

#198: Sharing God’s Message for Sexuality

God redeems our sexuality and allows us to share our stories with a hurting world. In this...

#197: A Pornography Addiction in our Marriage

On this episode, Juli talks with Sanj and Kay Kalra about the way that pornography addiction negatively affected their marriage for...

#196: Public Me vs. Private Me

What things in your life do you try really hard to hide? If my friends knew that I’m struggling with big temptations If people ever...

I grew up in a family of six kids, all very close in age. My position as “number five” out of six is probably a huge part of why I became a psychologist. My earliest pictures are often of me in a playpen observing family life. As teenagers, my sisters and I became...

#187: Grace for the Bad (and Not-So-Bad) Girl

“You can’t out sin the grace of God.” That’s a bold statement from our guest Liz Curtis Higgs, author of the...

#186: What Can Passion Pursuit Do for You?

Do you desire deeper intimacy with your spouse? Do you want to experience freedom in the bedroom like you’ve never...

How Do I Rebuild Trust After Betrayal?

There is no pain like discovering that your husband has been unfaithful. It’s as if your whole world has been shattered. You doubt your instincts because you have been fooled. You make vows to never trust again because old vows have been broken. Based on God’s Word,...

Masturbation: Is It Wrong?

Because my job is to talk to women about sex, there are few questions I haven't heard and haven't answered. However, there is one common question that I don't like to answer. Is it ok to masturbate? (Presione aquí para leer en español.) This question is a bit...

I’m Single & Have No Sexual Desire

“I don’t feel sexual desire toward my boyfriend/fiancé. Should I stay single?” Let me introduce you to three different women who have asked me this question for very different reasons: Chelsey has been dating Drew for two years. They have a deep affection for each...

#180: Broken Women, Prostitutes and Your Part

Do you have the courage to reach out to someone who is hurting? We often feel fearful or ill-equipped when God calls...

Healing After #metoo

As you watch a flood of #MeToo tags come through your social media feed, what is your reaction? Maybe you feel sick to your stomach, need some time to let the grief wash over you, or experience a rush of anger. Me too. How does something that is so hidden and...

#179: When Sex Is Not Good

"I know that orgasm should not be the main goal of sex, but I am disappointed that I have never experienced it." "I can’t say that...

#177: Why Abstinence-Only Education Doesn’t Work

The New York Times recently reported that there is now proof that abstinence-only programs don’t work. They’re right....

#176: When Men Are Addicted to Porn, Part 2

Ashamed. Broken. Afraid. These are just a few of the words that describe a man addicted to pornography; ashamed of his...

#175: When Men Are Addicted to Porn, Part 1

Ashamed. Broken. Afraid. These are just a few of the words that describe a man addicted to pornography; ashamed of his...

#174: Can You Walk Away from Same-Sex Attraction?

No one has lived closer to the controversy over being “ex-gay” than Anne Paulk. When her ex- husband...

#3: Mom, I’m Pregnant

As a parent, you will face a time where your child will surprise you and you aren’t sure how to react. In this episode, Juli talks...

#157: Why He Wants to be Your Hero

Men are simple—or at least that’s what you’ve been led to believe. Give them food, sex, perhaps throw...

Dealing With Friendly Fire in the Church

Juli Slattery and Mary DeMuth talk about how to deal with hurtful people and situations within the Body of Christ.

#154: Healing Doesn’t Happen Overnight

Do you ever feel like you’ve been permanently marked with a Sharpie® pen? That the hurts and heartache from your past just won’t go...

#153: Discovering Who You Are

What you believe about God has a huge impact on what you believe about yourself. When you’re at the top,...

#18: When You Don’t Like Your Body

How many times have you been disappointed or felt inferior because of your weight? Have you ever asked yourself where those emotions...

#152: How to Talk to the Opposite Sex

How you relate to others as a single person now matters to your future marriage. Whether it’s friendships, dating online or...

#19: What You Need to Know About Domestic Violence

Do you walk on eggshells around your husband? Are you constantly trying to be a better wife, friend, or daughter? This candid...

#59: Pulling Back the Shades

Women all over the world are excited about the release of the movie Fifty Shades Darker – but do they realize how this type of...

#150: Is the Spark in Your Love Life a Counterfeit?

Why do we care if Fifty Shades of Grey has sold over 125 million copies? Because it means that women are looking to...

#64: Online Dating: True Love or False Intimacy?

This is a candid coffee shop conversation with two single women who’ve “been there, done that” when it comes to the online dating...

#56: When Men Don’t Want Sex

“Not tonight, honey. I’m just not in the mood.” The stereotype of a woman who is trying to avoid intimacy with her husband by using...

#47: Loving Your Husband as You Age

The challenges of married life change as we grow older, and very few people talk about them. That's why Dr. Juli Slattery had...

#44: Unbelievable Betrayal, Outrageous Restoration

This is the story of how one husband’s pornography addiction lead to a distorted perspective of sexuality. His illegal actions,...

#41: Divorce and Remarriage

Java with Juli doesn’t shy away from the tough issues! Join Dr. Juli Slattery as she discusses two of the most polarizing topics in...

#37: We Shouldn’t Be Friends!

Your husband cheated on you and divorced you. Then one week after the divorce is final, he marries a younger woman. The typical...

#32: Being a True Man: An Honest Discussion About A Man’s Struggle

This is an important conversation for both men and women about sexuality, with vulnerable confessions of pornography use and sinful...

#30: Worshipping Through the Pain, Part II

Does the idea of worshipping in the midst of pain and desperation seem like a complete contradiction? Psalm 32:6 talks about how we...

#29: Worshipping Through the Pain, Part I

Does the idea of worshipping in the midst of pain and desperation seem like a complete contradiction? Psalm 32:6 talks about how we...

#126: What Your Husband Wishes You Knew About Sex

Have you ever wanted to climb inside the mind of your man, just for a day? Well ladies, here’s your chance! On this Java with Juli,...

#15: Growing In Spiritual Intimacy

How do you feel about God? Is He your close friend, your beloved? Or is He someone you fight with and yell at? Intimacy...

#6: Healing from Sexual Abuse

Have you experienced sexual abuse? Do you know someone who has? It's an issue that is incredibly difficult to talk about. Sometimes...

#124: Why You Need to Address Pornography In Your Marriage and Home

Every wife and mother have a common enemy: pornography. It destroys sexual intimacy with our husbands. It robs our children of their...

#123: How Sexual Differences in Marriage Can Make You a Better Lover

“Lord, I’ll do anything—just not that!” Being vulnerable, giving, and asking for your needs in...

#63: Hope and Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse

Statistically, one in four women have been sexually abused as a child. Often times to mask their wounds, these women...

Help! My Husband Is The One With The Headache

Watch a movie or flip through some TV sitcoms and you will hear men always want sex. Men are portrayed as constantly turned on and trying to get their wives into bed while the women are typically shown rolling their eyes. Ask a group “What do men think about most...

#114: Why You Need Other Moms in Your Life

Do you ever feel like you’re the only one whose kids are still wearing yesterday’s clothes, smear their boogers on the wall, or are...

#113: Why Friendships In Marriage Are Important

Juli, Linda, and Hannah discuss the importance of married couples having other married couples in their lives. Not only...

#100: A Marriage and Faith Wake Up Call

Have you ever gotten to the point where you think, I don't know if I can do this anymore? We all...

How to say “Yes, Yes, Yes!” after “No, No, No!”

As we round the corner into late spring, it’s wedding season. Although every new marriage has its unique struggles, some questions newlyweds ask are somewhat predictable. One of them is represented by the title of this blog. This question is not just asked by the...

God’s Healing Stinks

(Presione aquí para leer en español.) Have you ever had the experience of God “unfolding” the meaning of a Scripture passage in your heart? Recently, He’s been doing that in my heart with John 11. This is the account of Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead. Over the...

Q&A: How do I love and care for a family member who just came out as LGBTQ+?

How to love family identifying as LGBTQ+.

Q&A: Does God want me to be happy?

Does God care about our happiness?

Q&A: How do you love people you disagree with?

What are practical ways to love people with whom you disagree?

#248 Gay Girl, Good God: Jackie Hill Perry’s Story

Jackie Hill Perry shares how God drew her to Himself and brought her out of a lesbian lifestyle.

Q&A: Is it okay to not get married?

Do we have to get married?

What You Need To Know About Sex Before Your Wedding Night

How can you prepare for wedding night sex if you’ve never had it before? We explore 3 ideas to help you get ready for first-time sex.

Q&A: Why do I keep sinning?

Why do we sin even when we’re trying to stop?

Is Forgiveness Necessary for Healing?

Is there a connection between healing and the unforgiveness that so often fills our hearts?

Overcoming Sexual Shame and Fear in Marriage

There are many Christians who feel uncomfortable with their sexuality. Juli explores possible reasons why and advises on how to overcome it.

#516 Don’t Skip Foreplay! (and Other Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist)

Christian sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps married couples overcome common obstacles faced when building a thriving, holy sex life.

#513 A Child Psychiatrist On The Truth About Transgender Activism

Dr. Miriam Grossman, joins Juli to discuss what parents and kids need to be aware of when it comes to transgenderism.

#512 Friends Who Hurt Us: How To Recognize Unlikely Sources Of Abuse

Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson join Juli to talk about how to recognize, fight, and recover from abuse in all its forms.

#511 Why You Need to Laugh More

Comedian, author and Pastor Ted Cunningham is Juli’s guest this week, explaining the health and relational benefits of laughter.

#504 Painful Intercourse, Fake Orgasms, And Aging Sex: Answers To The Most Popular Sex Questions

Juli is joined by Dr. Jennifer Degler and Dr. Michael Sytsma in providing biblical, practical answers to questions about married sex.

Q&A: How do I Connect with my Emotionally Disconnected Husband?

Got an emotionally disconnected spouse? Hear what Juli says about how to connect.

Sexual Entitlement: What it is and Why it is Ruining Your Marriage

Yes, God created sex for marriage, but did He promise it to us?

#502 How to Understand and Overcome the Challenges of Postpartum Sex

Sex after pregnancy is radically different from sex before or during. Pelvic floor therapist Heather Marra and Dr. Jennifer Degler weigh in.

Q&A: What am I Supposed to do With my Sexuality as a Single Christian?

What does God’s design for sexuality look like when you’re single?

#501 Going Beyond a Superficial Faith – with guest Jackie Hill Perry

Time with God should be a delight, not a duty, but for many believers, it can often feel like more of a chore. What’s missing?

3 Reasons Why “Faking It” is Making Your Bad Sex Life Even Worse

While faking climax or sexual enjoyment may seem like a solution when you don’t like sex, it’s not a healthy long-term strategy. Here’s why.

Q&A: Is Porn Sinful?

Is porn sinful?

#499 How Vulnerability Can Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma

Podcaster Tim Ross tells Juli how honesty, vulnerability, and grace helped him overcome sexual trauma.

How To Heal And Grow: Four Surprising Pathways To Christ-Likeness

What would it look like to pursue freedom, healing and spiritual growth while embracing the way God designed you?

#498 The Surprising Thing You’re Missing In Your Healing Journey

Could it be that there is more to spiritual formation than simply knowing and learning the right things?

#497 Trying to Heal? Here’s Why Knowing Your Story is Essential

Join Juli and Hannah as they revisit some common themes, topics and questions from this year’s most insightful Java with Juli episodes.

God Says Sex is For Marriage – Here’s Why

More and more Christians are having sex outside of marriage, but is this in line with what God’s word says?

#496 Seeking Truth on Singleness, Married Sexuality and LGBTQ+ Issues – A 2023 Recap

Join Juli and Hannah as they revisit some common themes, topics and questions from this year’s most insightful Java with Juli episodes.

#495 Why Narratives About Sex Matter

Author Jennifer L Holberg explains why we need to challenge the narratives we’re given and see how the stories we believe shape our faith.

#493 How the Bible’s Teachings About Sex Reveal God’s Goodness

“Is God good?” Sam Allberry answers this in light of same-sex attraction, the heart of marriage, singleness, and the cost of discipleship.

Why Sexual Maturity Matters More Than Sexual Experience

What if the key to understanding sexual matters begins with knowing God’s word, trusting Him, and growing in self-control?

#491 Why Debates About Women’s Roles Might be Missing the Point

Dr. Michelle Lee-Barnewall explains why debates on the roles of women often miss God’s heart for His Church.

Q&A: Are Sexual Sin and Sexual Brokenness the Same Thing?

Are Sexual Sin and Sexual Brokenness the Same Thing?

#487 How to Cling to God When Your World is Falling Apart

How do you cling to your faith in God when life gets hard? What does it look like to have an unshakeable faith? And how do you cultivate it?

#316: Sorry Mom & Dad, the “Sex Talk” Doesn’t Work

Juli and Hannah explain what it looks like to teach your kids about biblical sexuality in our current cultural moment.

Q&A: How Often Is ‘Normal’ for Having Sex Within Marriage?

How can you know if you’re having sex enough in marriage?

#485 Your Marriage Won’t Survive Without Grace: Why Marriages Built on Performance Fall Apart

Is a lack of grace stopping you and your spouse from connecting? Brad and Marilyn Rhoads join Juli to discuss their book, “Grace Marriage.”

#454 Mismatched in Sexual Desire? You May Be Closer Than You Think

If you’re married and experiencing huge gaps between your level of sexual desire and your spouse’s, this special re-air episode is for you.

#484 Duty Sex, Feeling Objectified, and Other Reasons Women Don’t Enjoy Sex in Marriage

J Parker and Bonny Burns, hosts of “Sex Chat for Christian Wives”, provide biblical, practical insight on challenges wives face in marriage.

Q&A: What Is the Purpose of My Sexuality as a Single?

Is there still a purpose for your sexuality if you’re a single person?

#211: Understanding Pornography Addiction

Jonathan Daughtery of Be Broken Ministries shares his story and why he believes people keep returning to “lustland.”

#482 Trying to Overcome a Sexual Addiction? Here’s Why You Can’t Do It Alone

Nate Larkin joins Juli to share his journey breaking free from an addiction to pornography that almost destroyed his marriage.

Q&A: How Can I Love Someone Who Is Struggling with Sexual Sin and Brokenness?

How do you love someone struggling with sexual sin and brokenness?

#481 Learning, Leading, and Growing: A Reflection on 10 Years of Java with Juli

In this celebratory episode, Hannah and Juli discuss the heart of the podcast, what Juli has learned, and plans for the next decade.

#480 How to Heal and Rebuild Trust and Sexual Intimacy After An Affair

Why do people cheat? And is it possible to reconcile after you or your spouse has been unfaithful? Juli is joined by Jessica McDaniel, LPC.

Contentamiento: cómo vivir con gozo a través de los altibajos de la vida

Si todo en tu vida siguiera siendo exactamente como es en este momento, ¿crees que aún podrías ser verdadera y profundamente feliz? Como mujer soltera, esto era algo que estaba acostumbrada a preguntarme. Después de todo, el matrimonio no era una certeza. Sin...

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