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#122: How Christians Can Respond to the Orlando Tragedy
The June 2016 shooting at the gay night club Pulse was a national tragedy – the likes of which often bring mourning human beings...
#5: God Has an Opinion About Sex
Did you know that God has an opinion about sex? More than that, did you know His word is full of truth about one of the most...
Coming to Terms with Sexual Desire as a Single Woman
“Just wait for marriage,” so I’ve been told. So I’ve waited . . . and waited. And as I’ve waited, I’ve begun to wonder, If marriage doesn’t come, what am I waiting for? I remember the True Love Waits talks in middle and high school. The message was that sex was bad...
#114: Why You Need Other Moms in Your Life
Do you ever feel like you’re the only one whose kids are still wearing yesterday’s clothes, smear their boogers on the wall, or are...
#113: Why Friendships In Marriage Are Important
Juli, Linda, and Hannah discuss the importance of married couples having other married couples in their lives. Not only...
#110: How to Find Your Identity in Jesus
On this episode of Java with Juli, Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by Yvette Maher and author Heather Holleman. They candidly discuss...
Is Sexual Intimacy A “Sacrament”?
A lot of married couples consider their sexual relationship as an optional addition to the true substance of marriage, doing life together. In the hectic pace of managing careers, raising children, and helping others, getting naked together can seem like a nice perk...
The Very Important Difference Between Conflict and Fighting
I’ve shared with you in past blog posts that my husband, Mike, and I are very, very different. Early in our marriage, these differences created a lot of tensions. There were days when I wondered if we could make it with such divergent views on everything from money to...
#112: When Life Doesn’t Turn Out the Way You’ve Planned
Shana Miller got married for the first time when she was 46 years old. In this conversation with Juli, Shana shares how she...
Are You Leaning In or Leaning Up?
A few years ago, Sheryl Sandberg (the CEO of Facebook and now Google), wrote a best-selling book, Lean In. She shared her observations about women, careers and what keeps women from advancement in the workplace. While I think Lean In has some practical advice for...
Q&A: Can a single person be truly happy?
Does being single mean being unhappy?
Your Kids Need Foundational Biblical Beliefs, Not Just Teaching About Sex
Dr. Kathy Koch explains why foundational biblical beliefs are such a critical element of teaching your kids about sex.
Q&A: How do I talk to my spouse about sex?
How can you begin talking about sex with your spouse?
Q&A: How do I love my child and disagree with their sexual choices?
How do you show love to an adult child while disagreeing with their choices?
Q&A: Why can’t I orgasm?
Juli answers a Q&A about orgasm.
Q&A: Is masturbation bad?
Is masturbation bad?
How To Fight For Integrity In A Hyper-Sexualized World
Juli suggests some steps Christians can take as they pursue Godly living and surrendered sexuality in our hypersexualized world.
Q&A: Does my Spouse Watch Porn Because of me?
Is your spouse’s porn problem your fault?
Q&A: How do I Respond to my Kid’s Sexual Questions?
How do you talk to your kids about sexuality?
Q&A: I’m same-sex attracted, am I just supposed to suppress my sexuality?
Does following God mean we have to suppress our sexuality?
Purity Culture Failed Men Too
A male perspective on some of the negative fallout of purity culture.
5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband’s Porn Problem
Juli challenges wives to reject blame and consider biblical teaching on responding to the painful sins of those we love.
4 Lies the Movies Told Us About Sex and The Truths You Need to Know
Have you learned and adopted more beliefs about sex from the movies than you realize?
Why You Still Need Boundaries As You Pursue Sexual Integrity
While we do need to reject the legalism of purity culture, Juli explains that boundaries still help us embrace godliness with our sexuality.
Un Mapa Hacia la Integridad Sexual en Medio del Quebrantamiento Sexual
¿Quieres saber cuál es la pregunta que no me deja dormir? Es la siguiente: ¿Cómo puedo honrar a Dios con mi sexualidad en medio de mi quebrantamiento sexual y mis deseos insatisfechos? En Authentic Intimacy, a menudo usamos el término integridad sexual en lugar...
If I’m Free, Why Can’t I Do What I Want? And Other Ways We Misunderstand Freedom
There are significant differences between the way the Bible and the world talk about freedom, so what does it really mean to live freely?
#475 Why Empathy, Inner Healing, and Teamwork Are at the Heart of Building Intimacy
Sean and Lanette Reed join Juli in this episode to discuss how humility, faith, and empathy, helped them bridge gaps to create true intimacy.
I Love Being Bitter: How We Grow Bitter and 3 Ways to Overcome
The Bible warns against bitterness, but how do we prevent bitterness from growing in our hearts? Hannah Nitz shares her heart on the blog.
#474 A Rebel’s Manifesto: How to Live Holy Different with Sean McDowell
What does it look like to live life as a Christian counter-culturally? How are we called to be in the world but not of the world when it comes to engaging with others, sharing the gospel, and addressing our own sin?
In this interview, Juli hosts author and professor Sean McDowell as they discuss his new book, “A Rebel’s Manifesto.” The book serves as a call and challenge to today’s Christians, urging them to revisit God’s Word and rethink what it means to be salt and light.
Contentment: How to Live Joyfully Through the Ups and Downs of Life
If everything in your life were to remain exactly the way it is in this current moment, do you think you could still be truly, deeply happy? As a single woman, this was something I was used to asking myself. After all, marriage was not a certainty. What surprised me...
#470 Why Did We Start Hating Men? The Toxic War on Masculinity with Nancy Pearcey
When did it become normal for us as a culture not to like men? In this episode Juli’s guest is Nancy Pearcey, esteemed scholar, and author of “The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes”. She joins Juli to discuss the roots of toxic masculinity, what it means to be a good man, and how to combat the negativity around what it really means to be a man.
#468 Teaching Your Kids How to Love Their Bodies with Francie Winslow
How do we teach kids that God made their bodies and that He made their bodies good? Are there creative and intentional ways to connect with kids and help them develop a Biblical theology around their bodies?
In this episode, Juli connects with her friend Francie Winslow, a mother of six on a mission to imprint upon the hearts of her children the beauty of God’s design of their bodies and vision for their sexuality.
#467 Yes, Your Marriage Is Worth Fighting For (Here’s How to Save It)
While it may be the case that many people view marriage as a periphery issue, Juli’s guest, Pastor John McGee, argues that the way we love one another in marriage is one of the ways in which our faith is truly evident — “Marriage teaches us about the gospel, and the gospel teaches us about marriage.” Tune in to today’s episode of Java with Juli to discover some of what is missing in common teaching on marriage, and how leaning into the truth of the gospel equips us to love better, not just in marriage, but in all our relationships.
#463 (Bonus) The Need for Grace in Church-Based Conversations About Sex and Gender
When it comes to discussions around sex, historically the church has stayed quiet. As more and more pastors, authors, and psychologists within the church begin writing and talking about sex, the challenge becomes how to make these discussions accessible, nuanced, grace-filled, and Bible-based. In this episode, Juli speaks again with author and pastor Joshua Butler, as together they examine the challenges surrounding talking about sex from within the church.
#460 How To Have Mini and Many Conversations About Sexuality With Your Kids
How do you talk to young kids about sex? Keep conversations small and have them often. Justin and Lindsey Holcomb are back to share insights on talking to your kids about their bodies, God’s design for sexuality, and the boundaries of healthy touch.
Q&A: Where Do I Begin Healing?
Where do you start in your healing journey?
¿Qué hago con mis deseos sexuales?
“¿Qué hago con mis deseos sexuales?” He escuchado esta pregunta por parte de hombres y de mujeres, por parte de personas que nunca han estado casadas y por parte de personas que ahora son “solteros de nuevo.” También he escuchado esta pregunta por parte de personas...
Masturbarse: ¿Está mal?
Ya que mi trabajo consiste en hablar con mujeres acerca del sexo, hay pocas preguntas que no haya escuchado y que no haya respondido. Sin embargo, hay una pregunta muy común que no me gusta responder. ¿Está bien masturbarse? Esta pregunta es un...
3 cosas que aprendí (y desearía no haberlo hecho) de la pornografía
Cuando estaba en quinto grado, mi amiga abrió mi laptop y me introdujo al mundo de la pornografía. En ese tiempo, yo no sabía que era la pornografía, pero lo que sí supe fue que era...
¿Qué deberías hacer si tu esposo ve pornografía?
“Anoche encontré a mi esposo viendo pornografía. Esta no es la primera vez que sucede. Me siento tan violada, como si nunca pudiera volver a compartir mi cuerpo con él. De todos modos, ¿por qué debería? ¡Nunca podré competir con la pornografía!” Si tu esposo ha estado...
La sanidad de Dios apesta
¿Alguna vez has tenido una experiencia en la que Dios ha “revelado” el significado de un pasaje de las Escrituras en tu corazón? Recientemente, Él ha estado haciendo eso en mi corazón con Juan 11. Este es el relato de cuando Jesús resucitó a Lázaro de entre los...
“¿La masturbación es pecado?” Puede que estés haciendo la pregunta equivocada
Siempre que hablo con un grupo de personas sobre sexualidad, trato de dejar tiempo para una sesión de preguntas y respuestas anónimas. No importa quién esté escuchando, joven o viejo, hombre o mujer, casado o soltero, estoy segura de que me preguntarán sobre la...
#342: The Good Gift of Courage (And Why You Need It)
We talk often on Java with Juli about our culture’s confusing messages around sexuality. But today’s guest,...
¿Qué pasa si no me gusta el sexo?
Extraído de 25 Preguntas Que Tienes Miedo de Hacer Sobre el Amore, el Sexo, y la Intimidad de Dr. Juli Slattery. © 2015 en Unilit Publishers. Usado con permiso. Detesto el sexo. Me enoja escuchar que incluso sugieres que se supone que se disfrute. He estado casada por...
¿Cómo reconstruyo la confianza después de una traición?
Extraído de 25 Preguntas Que Tienes Miedo de Hacer Sobre el Amore, el Sexo, y la Intimidad de Dr. Juli Slattery. © 2015 en Unilit Publishers. Usado con permiso. No existe un dolor mayor como el de descubrir que tu esposo te ha sido infiel. Es como si todo tu mundo se...
#117: How Your Sex Life is Connected to Your Spiritual Life
An early theologian once wrote, “We know that when a couple has sexual intercourse, the Holy Spirit leaves the room.” If you were...
#282: How Shame Impacts Us
Shame is becoming popular… in a good way. More than ever, both Christian and secular voices are calling out the messages that...
#267: Are You Having Sex or Building Intimacy?
You can be sexually active without being sexually intimate. But is that God's best? Our sexuality is designed to be laced with...
Webinar: Surprised by the Healer
You may have heard Juli say, "We are all sexually broken." So how do we get "fixed?" Pursuing healing may involve counseling, God's Word, and having trustworthy friends around you, but ultimate healing comes when we encounter the Healer Himself. Join Dr. Juli Slattery...
Sex is the Icing on the Cake
Growing up, I was never much of a cook. With three sisters and a mother who all cook and bake masterfully, I had no reason to learn how. As a wife and mother, I reluctantly accepted my role as the family chef. A few years ago, I attempted to bake a homemade cake for a...
#255: Practicing Patience in Your Blended Family
If you're not part of a blended family, you probably love someone who is. Join Dr. Juli Slattery as she sits down with Ron Deal,...
Webinar: Keeping the Romance Alive
This is a webinar for you and your spouse! Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by her husband, Mike. Mike and Juli talk through practical advice and honest barriers when it comes to keeping the romance alive in your marriage along with answering your questions in a live...
Manhood on a Razor’s Edge
Last week, I spent $44 at Costco on Gillette razor blades for my husband. When I heard Gillette had just released a controversial video on toxic manhood, I wondered if I would regret my purchase. Having just watched the Gillette commercial, I couldn’t be more...
Webinar: His Brain, Her Brain
Our world is always telling us men and women are not different, but is that true? In this webinar, Dr. Walt & Barb Larimore will discuss how gender differences don't just exist--they are an important part of who God created us to be. You'll also learn how the...
#236: Pursuing Wholeness, Not Purity
None of us is pure, but we can be whole. The imperfect packaging of the evangelical purity movement left many feeling confused and...
#209: Tradition, Teaching & Women In the Church
Beth Moore recently blogged “A Letter to My Brothers” and flung open the doors to a discussion about women, teaching, and misogyny...
#203: Navigating Different Views on Sexuality
Do you know what you believe about sexuality? Can you talk about sexuality with other Christians who believe something different?...
Webinar: Having a Mission-Focused Marriage
When Gary Thomas wrote Sacred Marriage, he challenged the ideas many of us had on what's most important in our marriages. During this conversation, Hannah Nitz asks Gary to share his wisdom on making your marriage more "mission-focused." What does it look like to not...
#199: Sexual Harassment and the Workplace
Sexual harassment in the workplace is all over the news, and it can be challenging to know how to navigate...
Your Marriage Should Be Fun
Someone once asked my husband, Mike, “What’s it like being married to a psychologist?” Mike answered, “It’s great. I get to sleep with my therapist.” In all seriousness, there are some very frustrating things about having a wife who is a psychologist. Probably the...
#193: Loving Your Husband Well
How do you respect your husband when you don't respect his behavior? Are you trying to change your good husband into a perfect...
Webinar: Give Your Husband the Benefit of the Doubt
After a few years of marriage, it's easy to form a list of things that frustrate us about our spouse. When they make a mistake, drop the ball, or don't meet our expectations, it becomes tempting to roll our eyes and start to expect mistakes. Author and speaker Erin...
#190: Practical Ways to Love Your Husband
You have great influence in your husband's life. In your unique position, you can either tear him down or build him...
Webinar: What #MeToo Tells Us
Every week we see a new story come out around a celebrity or politician and sexual abuse. This is sparking conversation all over the internet as men are being outed as abusers and women are coming forward with their stories. This has exploded into an entire movement...
Webinar: When Christians Disagree About Sexuality
Do you know what you believe about sexuality? Can you talk about sexuality with other Christians who believe something different? Speaking the truth in love takes effort. We need to express our views with kindness and compassion. How do we hold to a biblical worldview...
Webinar: Q&A with Juli
Our FAVORITE part of conferences is the live Q&A session. We let audience members text in their questions anonymously and Juli answers each one! In this webinar, we are bringing this same concept to you. What questions do you have about sexuality, your marriage,...
#178: When It’s Hard to Be A Woman
Being female has gotten a bad rap. After years of femininity being squelched by the church, a new generation of leaders...
#170: Single Ladies, This One’s For You
How much should I share with my boyfriend about my sexual past? Is masturbating a sin? How much can we do before...
#168: Do You Believe Everything Is A Gift?
Hannah Nitz was able to sit down with two women who have influenced her since she was 12- Noelle Beck & Juli...
#166: We Are All Sexually Broken
Do you think that only individuals who watch pornography, use sex to feel loved, or cheat on their spouses are sexually...
Webinar: When You & Your Spouse Disagree
If you're living with another person and sharing life with them, conflict is definitely going to happen. But could you believe that fighting could be good for marriage? Join Hannah as she talk with Greg & Erin Smalley and they share from their experience as...
#160: Why God Created You To Be Sexual
Most of us don’t ever wonder about the purpose of sex. It’s something we desire, something we do, and for some of us, something we...
#158: Q&A with Juli and Linda
Grab your coffee and join us as Juli and Linda tackle YOUR tough questions about sex. On this...
Webinar: Sexual Discipleship
In every church, in every row are men and women who carry secrets and questions about sexuality, sexual abuse, abortions, pornography, and sexual identity. The virtual silence on these topics reinforces the thinking that God doesn't deal with our sexuality. So we look...
Webinar: Why Your Husband Needs You
Many women would use the word "helper" to describe their role as a wife, but why is being an encourager so important? Dr. Juli Slattery and Shaunti Feldhahn will address the vitally important message of encouraging your husband, and how vulnerable our men are to...
Webinar: How To Grow Closer To God
We make resolutions all the time--we're going to be stronger, healthier, wiser, more intentional, etc. But, do you think about making resolutions that grow your spiritual life? In this webinar, Linda Dillow teaches how you can grow closer to God. Linda shares from her...
#151: The Naked Truth About Sex in Marriage
One hundred percent of couples struggle sexually. The truth is, if you want great sex in a great marriage, you’ve got to take off...
Webinar: What Your Husband Really Wants for Christmas
"Christmas shopping for my husband is always a challenge. He's a particular guy. He takes hours to pick out a gym bag, and days to choose a watch. On my own, I never get it right. He's also the kind of guy who usually buys what he needs and doesn't wait for Christmas....
#142: How To Find Peace In Forgiveness
Popular author Anne Lamott wrote that, “Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to...
#138: My Long Journey of Healing from Childhood Abuse
Bev was an active wife and mom. She was even the women’s ministry leader at her church. And then, the memories started to come back....
Webinar: When You Don’t Trust Your Spouse
Would you describe your marriage as hurting? Have you walked through a situation or affair that has broken your trust in your husband or wife? Are you wanting things to get better but aren't even sure where to start? Most marriages have likely experienced broken trust...
#111: When You Have Every Reason To Leave
Billy & Vicki Rose were living the dream –glamour, celebrity, and sports in New York City. But their...
#136: How We Overcame an Affair: A Conversation with Jill and Mark Savage
"Every question Jill would ask, I tried to answer. My posture was: I will answer any question without defense. I...
#135: My Heart Is Still at Home: A Conversation with Jill Savage About Confronting Infidelity
As a role model and encourager to thousands of wives and moms, Hearts at Home founder Jill Savage was shocked and heartbroken to...
#134: Why Intentionality Is One of the Most Romantic Things in Marriage
"My husband would never randomly skip work to have a date, he isn't much of an improviser, and he definitely...
#133: How to Follow Jesus in an UnChristian Culture
Like it or not, our world is changing. Even our Facebook pages can’t escape the political and social issues that are currently...
#132: Honest Answers to Your Questions About Sex
At Authentic Intimacy, we love hearing from women. We love answering your questions and teaching you how to hear from...
#20: Exposing Fifty Shades of Grey
Many women enjoy reading steamy romance novels to escape, but at what cost to true intimacy in their marriage? Women have legitimate...
#109: Messy Grace
Caleb Kaltenbach was raised by LGBT parents, marched in gay pride parades as a youngster, and experienced firsthand the hatred and...
#128: What You Need to Know about the Hearts and Minds of Men
You’ve probably heard that men are “visually wired” –and you’ve likely wondered what in...
#127: Learning How to Apologize In Relationships
“I’m sorry.” “I’m sorry I hurt you.” “I’m sorry I hurt you. Will you...
#106: Aging Men and Sex
Sexuality is an important part of who we are, but it is not all of life. If your husband is getting older, things are...
#91: When The Man You Love Was Abused
Many men keep sexual abuse a secret for years, but bring the side effects of their trauma into their marriage. How can a wife better...
#42: Healing From Trauma
Too often, children are exposed to horrific events that their minds just can’t comprehend or process. Later in life those...
#86: Sexuality and the Single Woman
Christians (when they talk about it) only discuss sex when it pertains to marriage, but what about the sexuality of singles? Just...
#83: When God Gets Hold Of You, Part II
You’ve been diagnosed with a fatal disease, your personal and professional life is in shambles, and you’ve been arrested and charged...
#82: When God Gets Hold Of You, Part I
Dr. Juli Slattery has a brutally honest conversation with Christopher Yuan, the son of Chinese immigrants, who discovered at an...
#78: Loving Your LGBT Neighbor
As we look at the news and how people are responding on social media, the world really needs to see the best of Christianity. Join...
#71: Body Image & The Bedroom
God wants us to use our body to glorify Him. The body you have today -- not the body you’d like to have, or the body you once had....