Authentic Intimacy

#5: God Has an Opinion About Sex

#5: God Has an Opinion About Sex

Did you know that God has an opinion about sex? More than that, did you know His word is full of truth about one of the most...

Coming to Terms with Sexual Desire as a Single Woman

Coming to Terms with Sexual Desire as a Single Woman

“Just wait for marriage,” so I’ve been told. So I’ve waited . . . and waited. And as I’ve waited, I’ve begun to wonder, If marriage doesn’t come, what am I waiting for? I remember the True Love Waits talks in middle and high school. The message was that sex was bad...

Is Sexual Intimacy A “Sacrament”?

Is Sexual Intimacy A “Sacrament”?

A lot of married couples consider their sexual relationship as an optional addition to the true substance of marriage, doing life together. In the hectic pace of managing careers, raising children, and helping others, getting naked together can seem like a nice perk...

The Very Important Difference Between Conflict and Fighting

The Very Important Difference Between Conflict and Fighting

I’ve shared with you in past blog posts that my husband, Mike, and I are very, very different. Early in our marriage, these differences created a lot of tensions. There were days when I wondered if we could make it with such divergent views on everything from money to...

Are You Leaning In or Leaning Up?

Are You Leaning In or Leaning Up?

A few years ago, Sheryl Sandberg (the CEO of Facebook and now Google), wrote a best-selling book, Lean In. She shared her observations about women, careers and what keeps women from advancement in the workplace. While I think Lean In has some practical advice for...

#474 A Rebel’s Manifesto: How to Live Holy Different with Sean McDowell

#474 A Rebel’s Manifesto: How to Live Holy Different with Sean McDowell

What does it look like to live life as a Christian counter-culturally? How are we called to be in the world but not of the world when it comes to engaging with others, sharing the gospel, and addressing our own sin?

In this interview, Juli hosts author and professor Sean McDowell as they discuss his new book, “A Rebel’s Manifesto.” The book serves as a call and challenge to today’s Christians, urging them to revisit God’s Word and rethink what it means to be salt and light.

Contentment: How to Live Joyfully Through the Ups and Downs of Life

Contentment: How to Live Joyfully Through the Ups and Downs of Life

If everything in your life were to remain exactly the way it is in this current moment, do you think you could still be truly, deeply happy? As a single woman, this was something I was used to asking myself. After all, marriage was not a certainty. What surprised me...

#470 Why Did We Start Hating Men? The Toxic War on Masculinity with Nancy Pearcey

#470 Why Did We Start Hating Men? The Toxic War on Masculinity with Nancy Pearcey

When did it become normal for us as a culture not to like men? In this episode Juli’s guest is Nancy Pearcey, esteemed scholar, and author of “The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes”. She joins Juli to discuss the roots of toxic masculinity, what it means to be a good man, and how to combat the negativity around what it really means to be a man. 

#468 Teaching Your Kids How to Love Their Bodies with Francie Winslow

#468 Teaching Your Kids How to Love Their Bodies with Francie Winslow

How do we teach kids that God made their bodies and that He made their bodies good? Are there creative and intentional ways to connect with kids and help them develop a Biblical theology around their bodies?

In this episode, Juli connects with her friend Francie Winslow, a mother of six on a mission to imprint upon the hearts of her children the beauty of God’s design of their bodies and vision for their sexuality.

#467 Yes, Your Marriage Is Worth Fighting For (Here’s How to Save It)

#467 Yes, Your Marriage Is Worth Fighting For (Here’s How to Save It)

While it may be the case that many people view marriage as a periphery issue, Juli’s guest, Pastor John McGee, argues that the way we love one another in marriage is one of the ways in which our faith is truly evident — “Marriage teaches us about the gospel, and the gospel teaches us about marriage.” Tune in to today’s episode of Java with Juli to discover some of what is missing in common teaching on marriage, and how leaning into the truth of the gospel equips us to love better, not just in marriage, but in all our relationships.

#463 (Bonus) The Need for Grace in Church-Based Conversations About Sex and Gender

#463 (Bonus) The Need for Grace in Church-Based Conversations About Sex and Gender

When it comes to discussions around sex, historically the church has stayed quiet. As more and more pastors, authors, and psychologists within the church begin writing and talking about sex, the challenge becomes how to make these discussions accessible, nuanced, grace-filled, and Bible-based. In this episode, Juli speaks again with author and pastor Joshua Butler, as together they examine the challenges surrounding talking about sex from within the church.

¿Qué hago con mis deseos sexuales?

¿Qué hago con mis deseos sexuales?

“¿Qué hago con mis deseos sexuales?” He escuchado esta pregunta por parte de hombres y de mujeres, por parte de personas que nunca han estado casadas y por parte de personas que ahora son “solteros de nuevo.” También he escuchado esta pregunta por parte de personas...

Masturbarse: ¿Está mal?

Masturbarse: ¿Está mal?

Ya que mi trabajo consiste en hablar con mujeres acerca del sexo, hay pocas preguntas que no haya escuchado y que no haya respondido. Sin embargo, hay una pregunta muy común que no me gusta responder. ¿Está bien masturbarse? Esta pregunta es un...

¿Qué deberías hacer si tu esposo ve pornografía?

¿Qué deberías hacer si tu esposo ve pornografía?

“Anoche encontré a mi esposo viendo pornografía. Esta no es la primera vez que sucede. Me siento tan violada, como si nunca pudiera volver a compartir mi cuerpo con él. De todos modos, ¿por qué debería? ¡Nunca podré competir con la pornografía!” Si tu esposo ha estado...

La sanidad de Dios apesta

La sanidad de Dios apesta

¿Alguna vez has tenido una experiencia en la que Dios ha “revelado” el significado de un pasaje de las Escrituras en tu corazón? Recientemente, Él ha estado haciendo eso en mi corazón con Juan 11. Este es el relato de cuando Jesús resucitó a Lázaro de entre los...

¿Qué pasa si no me gusta el sexo?

¿Qué pasa si no me gusta el sexo?

Extraído de 25 Preguntas Que Tienes Miedo de Hacer Sobre el Amore, el Sexo, y la Intimidad de Dr. Juli Slattery. © 2015 en Unilit Publishers. Usado con permiso. Detesto el sexo. Me enoja escuchar que incluso sugieres que se supone que se disfrute. He estado casada por...

¿Cómo reconstruyo la confianza después de una traición?

¿Cómo reconstruyo la confianza después de una traición?

Extraído de 25 Preguntas Que Tienes Miedo de Hacer Sobre el Amore, el Sexo, y la Intimidad de Dr. Juli Slattery. © 2015 en Unilit Publishers. Usado con permiso. No existe un dolor mayor como el de descubrir que tu esposo te ha sido infiel. Es como si todo tu mundo se...

#282: How Shame Impacts Us

#282: How Shame Impacts Us

Shame is becoming popular… in a good way. More than ever, both Christian and secular voices are calling out the messages that...

Webinar: Surprised by the Healer

Webinar: Surprised by the Healer

You may have heard Juli say, "We are all sexually broken." So how do we get "fixed?" Pursuing healing may involve counseling, God's Word, and having trustworthy friends around you, but ultimate healing comes when we encounter the Healer Himself. Join Dr. Juli Slattery...

Sex is the Icing on the Cake

Sex is the Icing on the Cake

Growing up, I was never much of a cook. With three sisters and a mother who all cook and bake masterfully, I had no reason to learn how. As a wife and mother, I reluctantly accepted my role as the family chef. A few years ago, I attempted to bake a homemade cake for a...

Webinar: Keeping the Romance Alive

Webinar: Keeping the Romance Alive

This is a webinar for you and your spouse! Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by her husband, Mike. Mike and Juli talk through practical advice and honest barriers when it comes to keeping the romance alive in your marriage along with answering your questions in a live...

Manhood on a Razor’s Edge

Manhood on a Razor’s Edge

Last week, I spent $44 at Costco on Gillette razor blades for my husband. When I heard Gillette had just released a controversial video on toxic manhood, I wondered if I would regret my purchase. Having just watched the Gillette commercial, I couldn’t be more...

Webinar: His Brain, Her Brain

Webinar: His Brain, Her Brain

Our world is always telling us men and women are not different, but is that true? In this webinar, Dr. Walt & Barb Larimore will discuss how gender differences don't just exist--they are an important part of who God created us to be. You'll also learn how the...

Webinar: Having a Mission-Focused Marriage

Webinar: Having a Mission-Focused Marriage

When Gary Thomas wrote Sacred Marriage, he challenged the ideas many of us had on what's most important in our marriages. During this conversation, Hannah Nitz asks Gary to share his wisdom on making your marriage more "mission-focused." What does it look like to not...

Your Marriage Should Be Fun

Your Marriage Should Be Fun

Someone once asked my husband, Mike, “What’s it like being married to a psychologist?” Mike answered, “It’s great. I get to sleep with my therapist.” In all seriousness, there are some very frustrating things about having a wife who is a psychologist. Probably the...

#193: Loving Your Husband Well

#193: Loving Your Husband Well

How do you respect your husband when you don't respect his behavior? Are you trying to change your good husband into a perfect...

Webinar: Give Your Husband the Benefit of the Doubt

Webinar: Give Your Husband the Benefit of the Doubt

After a few years of marriage, it's easy to form a list of things that frustrate us about our spouse. When they make a mistake, drop the ball, or don't meet our expectations, it becomes tempting to roll our eyes and start to expect mistakes. Author and speaker Erin...

Webinar: What #MeToo Tells Us

Webinar: What #MeToo Tells Us

Every week we see a new story come out around a celebrity or politician and sexual abuse. This is sparking conversation all over the internet as men are being outed as abusers and women are coming forward with their stories. This has exploded into an entire movement...

Webinar: When Christians Disagree About Sexuality

Webinar: When Christians Disagree About Sexuality

Do you know what you believe about sexuality? Can you talk about sexuality with other Christians who believe something different? Speaking the truth in love takes effort. We need to express our views with kindness and compassion. How do we hold to a biblical worldview...

Webinar: Q&A with Juli

Webinar: Q&A with Juli

Our FAVORITE part of conferences is the live Q&A session. We let audience members text in their questions anonymously and Juli answers each one! In this webinar, we are bringing this same concept to you. What questions do you have about sexuality, your marriage,...

Webinar: When You & Your Spouse Disagree

Webinar: When You & Your Spouse Disagree

If you're living with another person and sharing life with them, conflict is definitely going to happen. But could you believe that fighting could be good for marriage? Join Hannah as she talk with Greg & Erin Smalley and they share from their experience as...

Webinar: Sexual Discipleship

Webinar: Sexual Discipleship

In every church, in every row are men and women who carry secrets and questions about sexuality, sexual abuse, abortions, pornography, and sexual identity. The virtual silence on these topics reinforces the thinking that God doesn't deal with our sexuality. So we look...

Webinar: Why Your Husband Needs You

Webinar: Why Your Husband Needs You

Many women would use the word "helper" to describe their role as a wife, but why is being an encourager so important? Dr. Juli Slattery and Shaunti Feldhahn will address the vitally important message of encouraging your husband, and how vulnerable our men are to...

Webinar: How To Grow Closer To God

Webinar: How To Grow Closer To God

We make resolutions all the time--we're going to be stronger, healthier, wiser, more intentional, etc. But, do you think about making resolutions that grow your spiritual life? In this webinar, Linda Dillow teaches how you can grow closer to God. Linda shares from her...

Webinar: What Your Husband Really Wants for Christmas

Webinar: What Your Husband Really Wants for Christmas

"Christmas shopping for my husband is always a challenge. He's a particular guy. He takes hours to pick out a gym bag, and days to choose a watch. On my own, I never get it right. He's also the kind of guy who usually buys what he needs and doesn't wait for Christmas....

Webinar: When You Don’t Trust Your Spouse

Webinar: When You Don’t Trust Your Spouse

Would you describe your marriage as hurting? Have you walked through a situation or affair that has broken your trust in your husband or wife? Are you wanting things to get better but aren't even sure where to start? Most marriages have likely experienced broken trust...

#20: Exposing Fifty Shades of Grey

#20: Exposing Fifty Shades of Grey

Many women enjoy reading steamy romance novels to escape, but at what cost to true intimacy in their marriage? Women have legitimate...

#109: Messy Grace

#109: Messy Grace

Caleb Kaltenbach was raised by LGBT parents, marched in gay pride parades as a youngster, and experienced firsthand the hatred and...

#106: Aging Men and Sex

#106: Aging Men and Sex

Sexuality is an important part of who we are, but it is not all of life. If your husband is getting older, things are...

#42: Healing From Trauma

#42: Healing From Trauma

Too often, children are exposed to horrific events that their minds just can’t comprehend or process. Later in life those...

#78: Loving Your LGBT Neighbor

#78: Loving Your LGBT Neighbor

As we look at the news and how people are responding on social media, the world really needs to see the best of Christianity. Join...

#71: Body Image & The Bedroom

#71: Body Image & The Bedroom

God wants us to use our body to glorify Him. The body you have today -- not the body you’d like to have, or the body you once had....