God's word is clear on marriage; but some of us are a little fuzzy on the divorce and remarriage part. What exactly does "sexual...
Your Healing Journey
#360: Feeling Fearful? The Right Kind of Fear Leads to Bravery
When you’re feeling fearful, the last thing you need is a social media meme telling you to “tighten your ponytail and carry on.” A...
#344: Standing Strong: Tackling Fear, Self-Doubt & Insecurity
Alli Worthington says the popular message that “you are enough” is leaving women feeling overwhelmed and...
#331: Say Goodbye to Labels
Life is tends to put labels on us. We even pin labels on ourselves. More often than not, these labels are hurtful,...
#315: Jamie Ivey Wants to Know the Real You
There are things we feel are acceptable to struggle with, and then there are those things we would never say out loud –especially...
Webinar: How Can God Be Good If…?
Our beliefs about sexuality begin and end with our beliefs about God. Is He trustworthy? Is His Word reliable? Why wouldn't a loving God embrace me just the way I am? In this webinar, Juli and Dr. Jo Vitale, a Christian apologist, talk about how acknowledging the...
#261: Bravery Means Being the Real You
You’re braver than you think. Bravery doesn’t always mean running into a burning building. For most...
Webinar: Tackling Shame
One of the most common themes in the questions we receive at Authentic Intimacy is shame. What is it? Where does it come from? How do I get rid of it? Can God really forgive every sin? If so, why do I still have so much shame? In this webinar, we address these issues...
#239: Stop Dreading Christmas
Somewhere along the line, this "most wonderful time of the year" overwhelms us, making our souls feel both...
I Don’t Trust Myself
A few days ago, I rushed to see Toni (the lady who cuts my hair) in the middle of the work day. I got there with just a few minutes to spare after getting off a conference call. Someone else was sitting in Toni’s chair. “I’ll just wait in the lobby until you’re done,”...
Pure Sadness and a Better Way Forward
I recently read a very sad book, Pure by Linda Kay Klein. This book keeps popping up in my newsfeed which tells me that people want to talk about it. The subtitle of the book hits precisely why this book caused my heart to ache: “Inside the evangelical movement that...
#224: Sexuality & Surrender
Laurie daily submits her same-sex sexuality to the Lordship of Christ while married to her best friend, Matt. ...
Learning to Say “I Was Wrong”
If you are old enough to recall the sitcom Happy Days, you’ll remember “The Fonz.” Henry Winkler played the character of Arthur Fonzarelli, the coolest guy in town. The Fonz in his leather jacket and perfect hair could get all the ladies with the snap of his fingers....
#192: Engaging in Restorative Relationships
We are wounded in relationships with others, and it only makes sense that relationships are also where our healing will...
#184: Authentic Intimacy Prepared Me for Marriage
We love hearing your stories. The excitement that flows from the heart of a woman who has been changed by God is...
#58: Lessons From a Former Prostitute
Angel lived a life of prostitution and drugs on the streets of Akron, Ohio. Her life changed the day she met Becky, a woman who...
#173: Lessons I Learned from Grief
“One of the things I learned was that I could not fix what was broken, but I could create something new.” Join Dr. Juli Slattery and...
BONUS! When God Re-Writes Your Story
Mary DeMuth has a powerful story to tell: what it was like to return to the place where she was raped at five years old. On this...
Webinar: When Your Greatest Fears Come True
Can you think of your greatest fear? Perhaps it's your husband getting into pornography, finding out you've been cheated on, watching your kids walk away from the Lord, or great harm being done to you. When your worst fear comes true, how do you continue to walk in...
#51: Working Through Depression
Have you lost your enthusiasm or your energy? Has your sense of adventure and willingness to gather in social situations dwindled...
#21: The Pain of Losing a Child
There is little anyone can do to help with the grief of a miscarriage, but if you or someone you...
#110: How to Find Your Identity in Jesus
On this episode of Java with Juli, Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by Yvette Maher and author Heather Holleman. They candidly discuss...
#112: When Life Doesn’t Turn Out the Way You’ve Planned
Shana Miller got married for the first time when she was 46 years old. In this conversation with Juli, Shana shares how she...
Why You Still Need Boundaries As You Pursue Sexual Integrity
While we do need to reject the legalism of purity culture, Juli explains that boundaries still help us embrace godliness with our sexuality.
Contentment: How to Live Joyfully Through the Ups and Downs of Life
If everything in your life were to remain exactly the way it is in this current moment, do you think you could still be truly, deeply happy? As a single woman, this was something I was used to asking myself. After all, marriage was not a certainty. What surprised me...
Q&A: Where Do I Begin Healing?
Where do you start in your healing journey?
La sanidad de Dios apesta
¿Alguna vez has tenido una experiencia en la que Dios ha “revelado” el significado de un pasaje de las Escrituras en tu corazón? Recientemente, Él ha estado haciendo eso en mi corazón con Juan 11. Este es el relato de cuando Jesús resucitó a Lázaro de entre los...
#282: How Shame Impacts Us
Shame is becoming popular… in a good way. More than ever, both Christian and secular voices are calling out the messages that...
Webinar: Surprised by the Healer
You may have heard Juli say, "We are all sexually broken." So how do we get "fixed?" Pursuing healing may involve counseling, God's Word, and having trustworthy friends around you, but ultimate healing comes when we encounter the Healer Himself. Join Dr. Juli Slattery...
#168: Do You Believe Everything Is A Gift?
Hannah Nitz was able to sit down with two women who have influenced her since she was 12- Noelle Beck & Juli...
Webinar: How To Grow Closer To God
We make resolutions all the time--we're going to be stronger, healthier, wiser, more intentional, etc. But, do you think about making resolutions that grow your spiritual life? In this webinar, Linda Dillow teaches how you can grow closer to God. Linda shares from her...
#142: How To Find Peace In Forgiveness
Popular author Anne Lamott wrote that, “Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to...
#138: My Long Journey of Healing from Childhood Abuse
Bev was an active wife and mom. She was even the women’s ministry leader at her church. And then, the memories started to come back....
#136: How We Overcame an Affair: A Conversation with Jill and Mark Savage
"Every question Jill would ask, I tried to answer. My posture was: I will answer any question without defense. I...
#135: My Heart Is Still at Home: A Conversation with Jill Savage About Confronting Infidelity
As a role model and encourager to thousands of wives and moms, Hearts at Home founder Jill Savage was shocked and heartbroken to...
#42: Healing From Trauma
Too often, children are exposed to horrific events that their minds just can’t comprehend or process. Later in life those...
#83: When God Gets Hold Of You, Part II
You’ve been diagnosed with a fatal disease, your personal and professional life is in shambles, and you’ve been arrested and charged...
#82: When God Gets Hold Of You, Part I
Dr. Juli Slattery has a brutally honest conversation with Christopher Yuan, the son of Chinese immigrants, who discovered at an...
#8: Some Things Are Too Big to Forgive
Are some things beyond forgiveness? Life hands us some really hard things; things that we think...
Why Your Story Matters
Have you ever wondered if your life matters? Out of all of the people on the planet, why is your life unique? From the time of my childhood, I’ve heard that I was made “in the image of God.” This one truth sets all humanity apart from every other created being. As...
Encountering the Radical Love of Jesus
Through our work at Authentic Intimacy, Linda Dillow and I have met hundreds of women on a healing journey. Some are dealing with sexual trauma, others infidelity and betrayal, and still others can’t shake the shame from their past. We have witnessed the power of our...
Why We Must Be Surprised by the Healer
This month I gave birth to my eighth book. Actually, it was a “co-labor” with my dear friend and mentor, Linda Dillow. When I use the word “labor,” I mean it. This book, Surprised by the Healer, was probably the most difficult that either of us has ever written....
3 Razones por las que puedo correr a Dios con mi quebrantamiento sexual
Mi invitada en el blog esta semana es Julia Mitchell. Julia es la Coordinadora de Participación de Usuarios y Miembros para Authentic Intimacy. Para mí, esta pregunta es donde todo comienza: ¿Puedo realmente confiarle a Dios todo, incluyendo mi sexualidad? Todavía me...
Cómo elegir un consejero sabio
Después de todos tus propios esfuerzos y tus agallas, tus oraciones y búsqueda de consejos, tus lecturas e investigaciones te das cuenta de que lo has intentado todo y aún persistes en tu lucha. Llegaste a ese punto en el que sabes que necesitas...
Relational Revelation
As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to healing. Those who study theology and teach the Bible often emphasize the importance of God’s Word and prayer. Christians in the therapy...
#195: Finding Your Confidence
Who do you think you are? Do you think you’re brave? Do you think you’re creative? “I love to encourage other women to stop...
Webinar: When You Feel Like Quitting
For many of us, the small sentence "I feel like quitting" can jump into our minds often. When we are in the middle of a hard season, tough situation, or even just a long day, life can feel too heavy. Can you relate to wanting to quit when it comes to your marriage...
#146: All You Need Is Jesus! …And Your Therapist
When the words “Christian” and “counseling” are mentioned in the same sentence, there’s no shortage of opinions about whether or not...
#129: How You Can Choose Contentment Every Day
Women are worriers. We worry about things that will happen. We worry about things that won’t happen. We see it as...
#107: Surprised By The Healer
Listen to the founders of Authentic Intimacy, Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow talk about a book they co-authored, Surprised by...
#99: Living With Crisis Pregnancy Choices
The decision to have an abortion may seem like a quick fix, but the repercussions remain with a woman for the rest of her life....
#87: Uncovering Hidden Anger
Is anger a sin or is it a normal healthy emotion? When you get angry, how do you handle the issue at hand? Join Dr. Juli Slattery...
#73: When Life Becomes Undone
Have you ever felt as though you’ve gotten “the short end of the stick?" Has there been loss, sickness, tragedy or injustice in your...
Lady Gaga and Jesus the Healer
It is not often that I find myself in agreement with Lady Gaga and the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences, but last night was an exception. In a dramatic presentation, Lady Gaga performed Till it Happens To You as dozens of male and female victims of sexual...
How Do I Know If I’m in an Abusive Relationship?
On the surface, they looked like a perfect Christian couple. Always together, with his arm around her waist. Her friends would admit to feeling a bit jealous. Abby never goes anywhere without Jake; he’s so attentive. I can barely get my husband to notice that I’m in...
“God Doesn’t Care” and 3 Other Lies You Might Believe About Sex
I’ll never be able to kick porn for good! I hate sex. I’ll never be able to enjoy it with my husband. I’m damaged beyond repair. I can’t have a great sex life if I don’t have a beautiful body. Have thoughts like these ever crossed your mind? If so, where do you think...
3 Reasons I Can Run To God With My Sexual Brokenness
This question is where it all begins for me: Can I really trust God with everything, including my sexuality? (Presione aquí para leer en español) I still picture myself in my room that night, tossing and turning, overwhelmed by the anguish in my soul. Gripping the...
Can Shame Ever Be a Good Thing?
“Shame on you!” If you grew up in my generation, this is a sentence you probably heard as a child. You were told that you should be ashamed of the way you treated your sister, for stealing that candy bar, or for talking back. These are also words that I’ve probably...
How to Suffer Well Through Sickness
*Trigger warning, mention of assault and trauma. This past spring, I spent 30 nights alone in the hospital without my loving husband by my side. One night, as I laid in my hospital bed, I thought back on the decision I made to marry him. Little did I know how my...
Why Is Healing So Hard?
Tina and I met together for counseling several years ago to work through some traumatic experiences from her past. A year after our work together was done, Tina came in for a “check up.” She shared with me that within that year, she had undergone surgery, radiation,...
Remembering Your Way Out of Discouragement
Have you ever faced a difficult season only to have friends tell you to trust in God? While you know their advice is right, it doesn’t seem very practical. What does it actually look like to trust in God through trials and discouragement? David faced almost every...
#145: How to Find Hope When Christmas Hurts
For some, this Christmas is anything but merry. Empty chairs where a loved one once sat, the loss of a job and no presents under the...
#143: Courage to Confront: What You Can Learn From the Mennonite Faith
"Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart." How true we find this scripture to be when we honestly consider...
#139: Why Your Story Matters
Did you know you have a story to share? Your story may be one of incredible redemption. Or it...
I Despise Neediness in Myself
This guest post by Mary DeMuth first appeared here. This is one of those posts I am starting that I don’t know how it will end. During this time of COVID, racial tension, and employment worries, I (like you) have had some space to observe my life. And...
The Challenge of Grace
We spend a lot of time as Christ-followers talking about forgiving one another. After all, Jesus taught the importance of forgiveness, saying that our Heavenly Father will not forgive us if we fail to forgive each other. That’s pretty heavy! While forgiveness is a...